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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the kid in this scenario and my mom was the sandwich. Luckily she knew it was developmentally appropriate for the kids to have no empathy for her.

It was hard for everyone but she didn’t make it worse by expecting us to be anything other than normal kids who did not appreciate what she was doing to try to take care of everyone. [/quote]

Yes, teens do not have a ton of empathy for parental struggles. That doesn't mean that OP should say yes to everything. OP is perfectly entitled to set boundaries and it is "developmentally appropriate" for teens to learn to accept them and accept that they can't have and do everything that they want.

There's something about the tone of the quoted message that suggests that mothers should be martyrs, that her own mother understood that it was her duty to suffer for her kids' sake. That's a really unhealthy mentality. OP has every right to take care of herself and say no, and for the majority of history, children understood that everyone in the family has rules and responsibilities and family life doesn't revolve around their extracurriculars. [/quote]

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