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[quote=Anonymous]I've recently become very involved in elder care for my parents; both are very sick and one probably doesn't have much time left. I work full time (from home) and my folks live close by, so I often go there during the work day and work from their home and help out as I am able (meds, groceries, cleaning, cooking, etc). I am back home by the time my kids arrive (4 pm) and do most of the ECs + HW support + cleaning (spouse shops and cooks). My kids each do 2-3 ECs. Recently, the older kid wants to add an another activity, which will involve more driving on my part.  She would definitely get home later, which means they'd also start hw later, which means I'd be "on call"  for later in the evening - this is mainly for subjects they need more support in (like math and science). I was helping one child with their trig until 11:15 on Thurs, for example.  I want to say "no way, Jose" to this new activity. Meanwhile, my younger kid also wants to host more playdates (we host about 1 a week for each kid), but I've been trying to limit that as well, because I AM SO TIRED.  Spouse fully supports limiting everything for the kids but I am feeling rather guilty. Like I guess I am choosing helping my parents over subscribing to more kids' activities and that is making me feel torn as I am disappointing the kids. They definitely complain that I don't take them to all their desired activities or host all the fun stuff. Is it too much to expect them to feel empathy? Or am I prioritizing my parents when I should be fully prioritizing my kids ? [/quote]

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