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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yet they each individually expect you to fully accept THEIR “new person”. Does this make sense?

I’m so sick of it. My SIL hates everyone from “the outdside”. New boyrfriends? New husbands? Absolutely not. But HER new boy toy? We must all fawn.

Wtf? Anyone else have family like this?[/quote]

My SIL is like this.  Anyone outside her DH and her DC are persona non grata, AND her DC and DH are the only ones that matter.  Every one from outside the family catches on immediately, and so do most family members.  It just makes her look weird and unlikable. We don't mention it, it is mentioned to us.

We listen, and it confirms and corresponds to what most people say about SIL. So, to us it is a non issue because everyone else sees the blatant SIL behaviors. It is what narcissists do, OP.  It has nothing to do with you. It is all about her. She only recently learned not to talk about "what she does" in response to something someone brings up, as a matter of conversation. For a long time, the only friends she had were the other SIL's friends.  I think that (the other) SIL finally said something to her (akin to get your own friends).  Sadly (the first) SIL has no friends really to speak of from childhood, and seemingly only has friends from pre-arranged groups.

SIL is also codependent/enabled by MIL, so it is what it is. Actually, many people who know both SIL and MIL have told DH and us that we are nicer than expected, when they meet DH and I - which does not surprise us to hear that. It does not have to affect you, OP. SIL was like this before you knew her, and she will always be this way - it is how she is wired. [/quote]

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