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[quote=Anonymous]Yikes.

This is scary.

Strategically, the best course of action is to get married so you have a minimum of legal protection. It sounds like he’s not going to agree.

You say he’s generous, so my next step would be open a retirement account for yourself and max it out every year. Make sure your daughter has a fully funded college fund where you’re the parent on the account.

It’s unclear what you mean by he is generous and how much money we’re talking about here, but I would push to buy a vacation home in a place that you would like to live, preferably in a lower cost of living area.

You’re on the precipice of poverty and you don’t have the luxury of prioritizing your emotional wants right now. Come up with a 5 year plan for financial stability.

Maybe the best course of action would be to use a child support calculator in your state to see what you would get from him. If what he’s willing to give you is more than child support, stay a few years to become more financially stable, if not, leave now. You’re not married so you can take your daughter anywhere you want, establish residency and file for child support there. Summer break is a great time to “travel” to your support system, establish residency and file for child support—that establishes the child’s residency in that state. This is the only downside of not getting married on his end — until there’s a custody order, you can take your daughter anywhere you want. [/quote]

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