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[quote=Anonymous]Hmm. I am someone who has always had "emotional heaviness" and actually only had a kid after years of therapy because I didn't want to carry that into parenthood. I had to learn strategies for dealing with strong emotions and ways to work through them without becoming depressed. I did a lot of CBT and it helped.

As a parent, I find myself using those same strategies in helping my kid through emotionally weighty moments and I'm really glad for that education.

I wonder, OP, if you might have a tendency to be avoidant around emotions and you are just finding that harder to do with children, who require so much real connection, especially when the are young. If so, you might need to develop your skill set on actually working through feelings instead of just "getting over" them quickly.

I also wouldn't compare yourself to your DH. Men are socialized to process (or no process) emotions very differently than women. My DH has definitely been on his own journey with this. He started becoming much more emotional as he approached 50, after being a "stoic" his whole life. Turns out suppressing most feelings for 45+ years doesn't actually get rid of them, they still eventually surface. It's been... interesting. Bu the point is that "minimal emotions" is not always better. Sometimes it's worse, but there's just a delay before you find out how much worse.[/quote]

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