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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It looks like:
-parking tickets with penalties
-filing taxes late 
-last minute vacation planning
-running out of toilet paper
-being reminded to go grocery shopping
-never sending Christmas cards
-never being a bridesmaid 
-knowing better than to volunteer for opportunities at kids school
-not maximizing kids educational opportunities 
-underachieving at work for your educational level[/quote]

+1.

All of the above but many fully believe this normal and everyone in the world functions at this same very level.  [/quote]

This. If it's both partners, they really might not realize (or they might be kidding themselves). I have a friend with really obvious untreated ADHD (and he's SO much fun), and he was honestly just gobsmacked to realize that some people plan vacations more than a few weeks in advance.[/quote]

I’m treated (fairly recently), spouse is not.

We have systems in place to avoid “ADHD tax” but unfortunately they are incompatible sometimes - I have everything on autopay and am usually always resetting my passwords for anything not saved by my computer automatically.  Spouse has everything written down, but completely chaotically and can sometimes not find the notebook or even figure out what they meant or wrote down.   If spouse gets a bill, they will write a check and mail it almost right away, even if it means being late for the next thing.

I had no idea not everyone lives like this.

It’s doable, but can be exhausting.  But I also think I’d find it harder to live with them if I didn’t have ADHD myself. [/quote]

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