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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. I should not have said shut out. yes luckily they are both into safeties. I’m just afraid moving forward that may be it for one of the twins. Not a tragedy I get it, but there will be fallout between them.

In response to the PP : twins are different than regular siblings. They spend their lives being compared in terms of every achievement and benchmark, even if not by parents and family, (which we have definitely made an effort not to do)but by friends, strangers, teachers  etc.  More importantly, I believe we did “raise them, right” but, as parents,we don’t get to dictate our kids’ emotions. They inevitably compare themselves to each other and that’s something I can’t change or legislate.

I’m looking for advice, preferably from other twin parents who understand the specific issues at play, on how to handle this in a way that encourages resilience, but is also compassionate.

Also, to the other PP, who wondered “why so many people are having twins these days” yes, we had to use fertility treatment and I imagine the other families are doing that as well, not that it’s any of your business. Grrr. [/quote]

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