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[quote=Anonymous]I am an Indian Hindu immigrant and have made friends through work, kids activities, kids school friends,  PTA, neighborhood, hobby clubs, temple, gym, socializing, activism and volunteering.

Most of the time, I am introduced to other Indian-Americans at dinner parties or events through my friends. Indian community is very social group of people and you always have excuses to celebrate events.  The thing is that you also have to show up and reciprocate.

The number of social events we have is mind-boggling.  First of all, the extended family is large enough for people.  We celebrate birthdays of all family members, anniversaries, big housewarming parties, many pre and post wedding events, weddings, engagement, graduation parties, lots of prayer ceremonies at home to celebrate life events, holy days etc where we serve lunch, American traditions and celebrations. We will find a way to celebrate and socialize. It is the way we were raised and in the US, it is a way for us to create a community for our children.

A lot of invitations come your way even if people do not know you very well. Many a times you are invited into an existing group as a guest.

When I interact with American friends, I do take the first steps to engage with them but usually reciprocity does not happen.  I usually keep the entertaining with them on a neutral place where everyone pays for their own meal.

You have to figure out who is willing to socialize with you and arrange for small get togethers where everyone pays for their own participation.  It could be at the gym, at the play ground etc. You have to spread a large net and do a lot of reaching out to find a few good friends. Most of the time people will not reciprocate even if you have spent money on them or have hosted them.  So, I personally save my hosting for groups that do reciprocate in some way. Otherwise you feel like a chump. [/quote]

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