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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your children are in school, I would expect you should be able to get all your stuff done during the school age and there should be zero to do on the weekend and in the evenings (save for dinner).

DH and I both work full time in very busy jobs, and we only have about an hour of stuff to tackle on the weekends. If I had a sah spouse of school age kids, and there was any expectation of me doing work on the weekends, I would promptly tell you to go back to work.  Because I would rather do 1 hour of chores on the weekends with my spouse contributing income, than do one or more hours of chores on the weekends with my spouse not contributing income. Sure, we outsource housecleaning and yard work, but - surprise - that is the beauty of having two incomes. You can afford all that plus have lots of money left over. [/quote]

Do you have kids?  
This doesn’t really make sense to me.  A lot of stuff needs to be done nearly every day and at pretty specific times (school pick up and drop off, for example, also meals, wake-up and bedtimes, etc).  You can’t just save it for a few hours on the weekends.

And if you aren’t talking about the day to day childcare and running of a household, and you outsource the housekeeping and yard work, then what are you doing for hours on the weekends?

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Of course I have kids. When kids are school age, you have the five hours a day to yourself. Let’s say you spend one of those days doing a full weekly cleaning of your house. Grocery shopping for an hour two other days. A few loads of laundry on two days takes maybe twenty mins of hands on time spread over several hours at your leisure.  What are you doing the rest of the school days? Not much. So you should handle the two hours of before school stuff and drop off plus the after school shift and dinner. I have never understood women who think that just because their working spouse is home and night, stuff should be split fifty fifty- when she did nothing all day long.

And before you ask, yes I also worked PT from home for three years when my son was a baby while we had a nanny for four hours a day while I was working, I handled all other household chores - laundry cleaning cooking etc. it’s just not that much. When kids get older, the after school stuff adds a few hours a day; but again you don’t have a job or any day time obligations so why wouldn’t you handle the post school trade off?

As to what we do on weekends: 3-4 loads of laundry, cat litter, deep clean kitchen (our cleaners only come every two weeks), break down recycling boxes, do returns, other small cleaning tasks, there are usually a few things I can fix around the house…. Every couple months we’ll have a more intense chore heavy weekend like spend all weekend power washing or similar. Also, I haven’t had private childcare since son started preschool. [/quote]

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