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[quote=Anonymous]3 yrs ago DH discovered he had prostate cancer. At 46, he had to have his prostate removed. We were told the likely effects.

First few months after he was given the go ahead, he tried to use Viagra but he said the whole thing just felt weird and unpleasant and it didn’t make him feel good, which in turn made him depressed. He would rather not try at all.

I could accept that and understand it. He is still affectionate, but he has zero desire to try to meet my needs in that way.

I’ve talked to him about it, and he said he just can’t do it. He saw a therapist who basically said I need to accept the new normal and adjust to his new reality.

I have accepted it, and we have not had any sort of interaction beyond hugging and sometimes a kiss or two for over 2 years.

We are best friends (I would never leave over this) and still have fun together.  We both work from home and for those who think he might be engaged in action elsewhere, we are around each other a lot and I am not getting any vibes like that. It just seems like that part of him is gone (which I guess it kind of is).

I guess for some reason reality is just hitting me now: I am destined to never have that sort of relationship again. That is so sad to me, knowing that that part of my life is over. I don’t know how to feel about it because I know there isn’t anything I can do.

For others who may be in a similar boat, do you really just get over it and at some point it doesn’t matter anymore? How long does it take? I am currently 44.

Thank you for sharing wisdom. DH is fine now BTW and we do not have any children by design if anyone wonders.

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