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[quote=Anonymous]The only way to change your thinking is to actively change it. Meaning - whenever a thought pops into your head that you want to change, you need to recognize the thought, and replace it with what you want it to change to. "Sally hurt me and I can't trust her" becomes "Sally hurt me, she repaired it and I can let it go". You may have to do this a hundred times for the original thought to adapt - but it will adapt. Your brain makes a new pathway, and you change your thinking. I agree with a previous poster that forgiving doesn't equal forgetting - and the fact that you remember and injury doesn't mean you haven't forgiven well enough. It's just background information. And if you have a situation come up where that background information is an important factor - it gets weighed against other evidence to come to a decision about your current interaction with that person. It's not the only factor.[/quote]
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