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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Forgive and forget are two different words. When you forgive someone, you unload the anger and hurt from your headspace.  This doesn’t mean you forget what they did. Not forgetting reminds you not to fully trust them again. [/quote]
OP here. This captures things really well for me. I have forgiven. Honestly, once we talked through things, it was obvious that hurting me was not intended at all. Maybe even the contrary. But the forgetting is difficult. I know (and feel) that this person cares for me a lot, and yet they still managed to do something very hurtful. It makes it worse than if they were indifferent to me.

I'm not someone who trusts easily, and I allowed myself to trust this person. In a way, the trust was not misplaced as they clearly still care a lot. But I am struggling to trust, and the loss of the trust is making it difficult for us to interact comfortably. I still care for them as well, and this person is clearly hurt when I react to them in ways that are guarded and mistrustful.

I don't know what to do. This person is an amazing person with whom I just click. We relate to each other almost like siblings, and it's so hard as an adult to find a friend like that.[/quote]

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