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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Got a note from dc’s teacher that ds (10)  during a PE game, pushed a kid out of his way in a way that ds thought was playful and the other kid did not. The note from the teacher detailed that the kid went on to have a pretty severe panic attack/ hyperventilated etc/ had to leave the class and they would be looking for ways for dc to make amends and for us to talk to dc about the panic attack the other kid had and the gravity of situation. I said of course and let’s maybe chat quickly if teacher has time.

[b]In the past if I have ever had notes about my kids behavior I’ve always been so so contrite and on board with fixing and I absolutely think that pushing is unacceptable and dc should make amends for this. [/b]

I am a little concerned though this time with dc feeling completely responsible for another child’s quite extreme reaction to this event. It’s 100000% my dc’s accountability that he pushed someone and even if he thought funny, it was NOT funny or appropriate for that person and never ok to push.  But  something about giving him the entire burden of responsibility for the kid’s reaction worries me for reasons I can’t articulate. Am I just nuts? It kind of doesn’t matter either way bc I will do the same thing but curious if my feeling has any merit bc I don’t want to be TA
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I want this to sound constructive and not snarky— is pushing/physicality something your DC is particularly struggling with? Is it possible the boy he pushed has been targeted before/being bullied?

Because it seems odd of the teacher to be quite so detailed in the note unless he/she thought this wasn’t being taken seriously or there was a larger problem.[/quote]

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