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[quote=Anonymous]Hello,

I’ve been dating this man for 4 months. It is going fairly well. We spend time together regularly.  He was pretty quick to want to move into an exclusive relationship, then quick also to call me his gf, but never without much discussion about how he feels about me. 
We have discussed what we’re looking for and we seem on the same page. I think I have been more clear with sharing that I want a long term, committed relationship. His response is that he wants an « amazing relationship ». 
The thing that gives me pause is that I recently opened up with my feelings and the reception was rather lukewarm. I didn’t say I love him but expressed how good being together is and that I’m getting attached, some things along those lines. His behavior up to that point was just so inviting and led me to develop those feelings. 
In return he said that he loves spending his time with me, is attracted to me, respects me, but he hasn’t developed strong feelings and is worried they might be slower to develop or that they might not.  I took his comments calmly as he was being honest and told him that given the context, I would adopt a more casual approach. This is not an attempt to play games on my part. I just don’t want to be hurt.

Since then, he seems to be more into me, expressing more excitement, etc.

I am being cautious and don’t want to make rash decisions as I really like him. However, I now wonder if we’re going to get into a push-pull pattern, or if he’s avoidant, will end up having commitment issues, or if this is all just completely normal four months in.

I would appreciate anyone who could share feedback on similar experiences.  
Thank you [/quote]

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