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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spouse and I don’t fight often-maybe 2/3 times a year (I’m not counting tiny disagreements that happen within daily life. But when we do he makes up for the infrequency with a terrible temper and then going completely silent until I break. He never apologizes. He never takes responsibility. I hate it so much. I have told him numerous times that his response to fighting is not how an adult person should be handling it but this is just who he is. He is a great father and a good husband during regular times. But I mean, fighting is a part of marriage and his response makes me so angry every time it happens. I am in therapy and now simply walk away when it happens but it doesn’t change his response. He will not do therapy and thinks it’s pointless.

Sometimes I think about spending the rest of my life like this and I want to throw up. He quite literally reacts like a 12 year old.

I have tried numerous strategies-giving him space, telling him not to talk to me in a certain tone. It seems to just add fuel to the fire. Nothing changes.

Anybody have experience with a spouse like this?[/quote]

Yes. Not the silent treatment as much, but definitely the anger. Nothing has worked. I wish I had left and asked for a separation (and divorce if necessary) long ago when I could have started over. 52 now and I guess this is it.[/quote]

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