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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: I think that screentime is so enticing for these kids with ADHD that you all are right...we should have no screentime during the week. I like the 1-2-3 lose screentime on the weekend, but here's a question... Can your ADHD kids stop themselves by 3-- my kid is not medicated and sometimes it feels like he can't stop himself... maybe that's just an excuse though that I have bought into about impulse control difficulties.... The bedtime info is helpful too. [/quote]

5:43 here.  My ADHD kids have problems stopping themselves even when they're on medication.  It's gotten better as they've gotten older but that's why having structure/routine and consistency is so important.  For those things that are really important, you've got to stand firm or you'll be communicating to the kids that you don't really mean what you say. Our kids are 'timer trained' so they know when that timer goes off, they have to stop whatever they're doing.  It wasn't always easy in the beginning but after doing it for a while, it's dramatically eased transitions and turn taking.  Poor impulse control is an explanation but it's not an excuse.  We struggle with one kid who yells out whatever pops into his head.  We're working on helping him to learn to put the brakes on and edit what he says but, honestly, this is a years long effort.

About the video game playing.  The kids get 20 minutes on Saturday and 20 minutes on Sunday [i]no matter what[/i].  No matter they're negative behaviors, they always have that.  You don't want your kid to be in a position where he feels he's got nothing left to lose.  They might have lost all the extra minutes they've earned but they always get 20 minutes and the possibility of earning a little more.  That 20 minutes is long enough for them to get into the game and enjoy it but short enough that it makes them want additional time.  It provides another opportunity for us to discuss why they don't have more time to play.  It helps them make that connection between behavior and consequences without them being totally bent out of shape for not having any time to play.  Think about it, how would you behave if you felt you had nothing left to lose.  [/quote]

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