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[quote=Anonymous]I've got three kids - 2 with ADHD and 1 NT.

Kids are in bed at 7:30 every night (weekends, too).  They aren't allowed to read in bed.  Bed is for sleeping.  We will sometimes set the timer for 5 minutes and let them talk until it goes off.  But, once the timer is off, everyone has to be quiet. (They all share a room)

They aren't allowed to get up before the 'light comes on'.  In summer, it's the sun.  In winter, we use a dawn simulator http://www.amazon.com/BioBrite-Sunrise-Clock-Advanced-Charcoal/dp/B00196LFIU/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1344466465&sr=1-1&keywords=biobrite .  The light comes on gradually (like the sunrise).  It makes getting up easier in winter and also lets them know when they can get out of bed.

We don't do homework during the week.  By the time we get home, the kids are exhausted and there is no value in doing homework when they're so tired.  When our oldest was in K/1st grade, we did push it but the meltdowns were really affecting our home life and the special ed teacher told us it wasn't worth it.  We had written into the IEPs that homework would be completed during school time or on the weekends.  During the summer, everyone has to do at least 20-30 minutes of 'education time' every day.

No screen time during the week.  None.  On weekends, they can watch as much TV as they want until DH and I get up.  They can only play video games on the weekend after lunch.  They always get 20 minutes no matter what.  If they have good behavior during the week, they can earn extra minutes.  They can also lose the extra minutes with negative behaviors.  They can earn up to an extra 25 minutes for Saturday and an extra 25 minutes for Sunday.  I'm not one of those anti-TV/screen people.  We've just found that screen time is VERY motivating for our kids so they're motivated to maximize the time they can watch/play.  Not having TV on during the week has actually made things easier.  I don't know what it is about screen time but it's difficult for them to transition away from it.  We got tired of the crankiness and poor temper.  Now that it's not on, it's much more peaceful.

Our kids are too old for "time out" but if their behavior is unacceptable, I have no problem giving them a choice to go to their room or go to the screen porch (no matter the weather).  If they don't choose, I'll choose for them and I always choose the porch.  I'll set the timer and they can't come back in until they're back "in control". If I have to, I'll lock the door and they can't get back in!  At least I've got some peace and quiet.  If they start banging the door, they start losing screen minutes.

We also have a behavior chart with targeted behaviors.  We usually have 5 that they are supposed to do every day - like cleaning up for 15 minutes, a good deed unasked, put clothes away, they do what is asked of them with no more than 1 reminder, no complaining/whining, did they do their best work, etc. At the end of each day, we review the chart, decide if they, in fact, did that thing.  If they did, they get a check.  After they earn a collective total of 35 checks, we watch a movie, go to the dollar store or something like that.

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