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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t force a relationship or expect your nieces and nephews to be under obligation to you. They should be polite of course but they don’t need to engage beyond being polite. Just because you text them, it doesn’t mean they have to engage you in a text conversation or share personal information with you about their lives.

These aunts who expect something in return are really off base. [b]As kids, they didn’t push you to give them gifts. You did this.[/b] Of course, they accepted them, played with them, thanked you etc. A child is not going to say thank you for your generosity but I can’t accept this gift. I don’t know if as an adult I will want to reciprocate in the manner you expect or establish the relationship you want. To avoid hurt feelings down the road, I must decline.

They aren’t being selfish just because they don’t want a closer relationship with you. There aren’t any tricks to force this.

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I certainly don't expect them to share personal information about their lives with me! Maybe just a heart reaction or "tx" to a Happy Birthday text, which I think is basic politeness.

You've assumed here that I gave them gifts and now expect something in return. I never gave them gifts. I've never been in a position to send that many presents. 
Of course, other PPs have written that I should be sending gift cards and not texting and that the way to a relationship is via presents. 
Can't win, I guess.

I'll just continue to be there for if and when they want to reach out. [/quote]

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