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[quote=Anonymous]I'd tell her firmly you won't discuss it again and I'd look at other aspects of your relationship as a check in.

Does she have a habit of giving you unsolicited advice? Does she often do it in a way that makes it seem like she's talking down to you? Does she get mad at you or act irritated when you don't do things the way she has told you to do them?

I used to have several friends like this and I ditched them completely when I had a baby because I suddenly realized, "oh, I hate this." These women were all around my same age, similar levels in their careers. There was nothing about our relationships that indicated I should be in a subordinate role. But they viewed it that way. I felt extra vulnerable after becoming a mom and they started doing the same stuff but regarding motherhood -- lots of criticism and unsolicited advice, or getting mad at me because I made different choices about stuff like breastfeeding or childcare than they told me to do (because they told me to do what they did).

I don't do friendships where I am spoken to like an employee or someone's mentee. I have a capable person with a history of making good decisions, but to be honest, even if I was a mess who often made mistakes, I'm still my own person and I don't report to my friends.[/quote]

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