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[quote=Anonymous]I've been catching DD 8 lying somewhat regularly, they're relatively little things, but I don't like the pattern of behavior. But yesterday I called her out and she dug in deeper and the argument went for far longer than it needed to and I just don't feel good about the incident. 
We were reading in my room before bed, I noticed her lip was cracking and dry and i told her to go grab the Vaseline in my bathroom and put some on. She went in the bathroom came out and said, ok I put some on. At the time I remember thinking her lip looks exactly the same. An hour later I was looking for the Vaseline in question myself and couldn't find it in the bathroom, and then I remembered that DH had taken it downstairs the night before. This morning I was helping her get ready and I recounted the story to her and asked her why she lied about such a small thing. Instead of admitting it, she decided to lie again and said I thought you said something else. I said, what'd you think I said. She said, thought you said to go brush my teeth. That lie didn't even make any sense obviously... why would she brush her teeth in my bathroom. Then we argued about that lie and it just became a bigger deal than intended and everyone went to work/school in a bad mood. 
I just wonder if I should have handled this differently. I do put a premium on honesty and have always said so to the kids. Other times I've caught her lying are things like, she'll tell us, her brother said he hates me, when he said nothing of the sort and when called out she'll admit he didn't. Things like that. Kind of small, but the pattern is bothersome. DD personality-wise is more "oppositional" than average, I think. So the lying seems almost like a gut reaction more than anything she's doing consciously. [/quote]

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