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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are the children?
Do you work outside the home full-time? [/quote]
Wtf would this matter? Because someone doesn’t have a job outside the home or works part-time, they deserve to be abused by their kids and spouse? Gtf out of here!

Cereal next week! Don’t like it, complain to General Mills.[/quote]

Well, I think it matters because it's a reasonable question about the division of labor in the household.  Someone that doesn't work outside the house is going to carry more of that load (absent a disability or something).  And if something is your "job," you need to be open to suggestions about how to do it.  But I agree that those should be constructive and politely conveyed.

This is different, but  one of the things that drives me nuts about my spouse is that he just thinks I should be grateful for however he does something -- even if he does a crappy job at it.  So if he puts stuff away, but all in the wrong place, he gets pissed off when I ask him to put the stuff away in the right place next time.  I think that part of the deal with splitting up household labor is that you should make some effort to do whatever it is you're assigned to do in a way that will meet reasonable expectations of both parties.  
I don't think that's the problem that OP is having, but it is relevant.  I mean -- I'm sure she wouldn't want to keep buying a brand of syrup that the whole family hates --- so if she's in charge of buying syrup, there should be a nice way for them to convey to her "Hey, we like Hershey's better than Magic Shell."  The key is for that to be conveyed nicely.

And, of course, if they both work full-time and she's the only one doing the shopping, cooking, meal planning, that's a different problem.  [/quote]

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