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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I have the perfect relationship until it comes to money. She has always had the expectation or hope that I be the primary breadwinner and work to give her the UMC life she feels she deserves. I have worked for 9 years now and my income has gone from 50k to 300k to now 60k again. I have spent most of the past decade in low earning roles and spinning my wheels professionally.

My wife’s income has steadily increased from 40k to $120k now. She feels our incomes combined would not make for a feasible lifestyle for children. She wants me to increase my income but I truly don’t know how. I have a liberal arts education and cannot go back to be a doctor or a lawyer.

I am increasingly fed up of being told I’m not making enough and it’s effecting my marriage. [/quote]

Not enough details or facts here.

Lib arts degree people can do many things and make good money.

Unclear what industry or function your work experience or interests are in.

Unclear how you made $300k a year and now feel you “never will again.”

Unclear what YOUR goals are career or income-wise.

Unclear what YOUR financial goals are. Or your family budget and goals.

Unclear if you are a passive, reactive person or a proactive person.

Why don’t you sit down with your wife and your actual accountant and financial planner.

Also consider a career counselor or coach or talking with alums in or in adjacent companies, industries, or functions you want.

Most people DO have career goals and try to take steps towards them. These goals include working hard in one’s 20s, getting great work experience and network, and continually leveraging that for next jobs and promotions. Thus making more income and working less hours but doing higher level work, maybe managing teams, and becoming and expert in one’s area. Every trade or career or job has THAT. [/quote]

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