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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a high school senior with ADHD and depression, who wants to go to college to have a social life, and I worry so much this will be her.

I'm so sorry OP, for the worry this is causing you.

I've been running scenarios in my mind, and who knows maybe my kid will keep it together.  Do you bring her home give her no money and have her work?  Enroll in community college?

I don't know.  I wish you good luck.  [/quote]

OP here- I'm convinced she would have failed no matter what, but in hindsight, I would have (or next time will):
- had her waive all FERPA rights and give us full access to her grades, etc.  that way I could have seen real-time when she started falling off a cliff, so we could intervene.
[b]- got her set up with a tutor/Exec Function coach there who helped her stay on track weekly, complete assignments,[/b] etc
[b]- watched her location and called her to tell her to get her as* to class when she was still in her dorm room[/b]
Although I now know she's never going to mature until she takes accountability and responsibility. 
[/quote]

This is too much though.  She isn't ready for college, and that's okay.  She will mature and she will grow, but first she needs to reset and take care of her mental health. That's the basic building block for any type of independent life.

This isn't YOUR failure. I say that gently. [/quote]

This. OP,  if you did all that, then what would you do after graduation when the kid (not yet an adult) gets a job?
Drive her to work every day? [/quote]

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