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[quote=Anonymous]Mine hasn’t yet made it to college. But here’s what I can tell you about post HS without any education. Things depend a lot on what your child chooses to do and how much, if at all, you are going to provide financial support - which includes car, money, cellphone, bus fare, rides to places etc. It also depends on what you’ll tolerate in terms of having her live at home and whether you’re going to enforce any rules, requirements (ie, chores, respect, family time, etc).

First word to the wise. If you’re not going to enforce a rule, expectation, requirement or whatever, don’t make it a rule or requirement. Once there is refusal and you do nothing, you’ve set a pattern and digging out it tough.

Second, if you don’t already know this, a cellphone is a necessity for job hunting, bus schedules, etc. So don’t take it unless there is a good reason like she’s using it to deal drugs.

The rest is preference. We don’t give money or use of a car so mine always works. It took awhile, but motivation to be more than a barista has crept in after two and a half years so he’s taking steps to get to community college - I won’t pay for more until he proves himself. But again this is preference. Some people are fine with their kid staying long term. Me, I just need him to be able to take care of himself before I am no longer able. [/quote]

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