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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My older sister is always talking about how she's setting boundaries, but her behavior just seems judgmental. Her attitude comes across as everyone in the family has profoundly disappointed her and she has to set boundaries because of how awful we are. I'm not even clear on what the boundaries are. I treat her like I treat other people. I reach out to spend time with her, listen to her etc. She just doesn't seem to like us but keeps saying this is about "healthy boundaries."[/quote]

This sounds fishy. Your older sister is unhappy with the family relationships as they are. It sounds like she needs space and you are offended. If you don't know what boundaries are google it. If her boundaries upset you, get therapy. If she doesn't like how you treat her, you can either change it or spend less time with her. You say you treat her like you treat other people. If you have no friends then you may need to re-examine how you treat people. If you do have friends, spend more time with them because it sounds like your sister is creating some distance.

What are you hoping for positing here? Do you want us to all tell you your sister sounds crazy and boundaries are stupid? Even if your sister is abusing the term and is playing victim, the reality is she does not want to be so close to accept that. If she doesn't seem to like you, spend time with those who do. We cannot change her mind for her.[/quote]

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