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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure how common this is but my father was never around when I was a child. He wasn't in jail or homeless or dealing with addiction issues, he just set up a different life in another state and never provided support, financial, emotional or otherwise. I saw him a handful of times and don't have any significant memories of him other than asking him for something once and, of course, him not delivering.

Now, I'm mid-40s, married to a lovely woman, in an good career and have two kids of my own. So, of course, he popped up a few months ago looking to establish a relationship with me and showing interest in his grandkids. He also revealed that I have two half siblings, neither of which he has/had a relationship with.

I don't feel any connection to him and, although I'm cordial, I have little interest in fostering a relationship. I'm not angry or resentful or bitter, jusr completely apathetic to him. My mother encourages me to try to build a relationship (maybe for the sake of my children) but I quite literally don't know this man and have no idea what kind of influence he'd be on his grandkids, if any.

Am I being unfair? I know I don't "owe" him anything, but do I? Should I be more open for the sake of my kids having a relationship with a grandad (DW's father is even more absent)? Has anyone else felt with something similar?[/quote]

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