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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do your best to explain how your schedule helps the family.

Ask your son if there are things he'd like you to budget time for to do with him.  Does he want you to see something you usually miss, like a Saturday soccer game?

Maybe come up with a new weekday end of day connection time?  Bedtime reading of an older child's book?

Can you truthfully explain that you spent similar SAHM time with him when he was your younger child's age?  That could help.

I understand why you want to keep your skills fresh.  Flexible arrangements that perfectly fit in a dual-income HH's schedule can be hard to find.

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I think they both are sad when I'm not home at bedtime because they like sleeping with Dh and I.  We have been watching mini-movies before bed. I'm sure it's more than that. Also, I think Dh has been stressed. He's not as patient with them and I think they sense that. [/quote]

Yeah.  I was wondering if your husband was trying to have “downtime” on Saturday while simultaneously taking care of two little kids.

This schedule sounds kind of brutal for him, especially if he doesn’t have a lot of friends or family around to hang out with.

I love my kids, but I wouldn’t want to spend every Saturday and half of Sunday solo parenting.  [/quote]

I was thinking the same. Working all week and then parenting solo for most of the weekend, every weekend, would be tough. And a bit lonely, depending.

OP Does DH has family/friends with kids that he sees? Planned activities (soccer practice etc) or things he does with the kids? Trips to the zoo, children’s museum etc? When worn out from the workweek, it would be really easy to fall into a pattern of letting the day get away. Might be useful to hire a sitter for a few hours- or some sort of camp or drop off activity that lasts a few hours-  so DH can recharge his battery. Better to have a sitter for a few hours & a recharged dad the rest of the day. [/quote]

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