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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BTDT. But she is in her 90s. Assuming she isn't one of these super geriatrics, she won't live that much longer.

You are paying for her mistake. But find a balance between what you can afford (though don't want to pay) and what you are willing to pay in order to avoid regret after she is gone.

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I'm trying. But I also have my own expenses and want to retire in a year or two.[/quote]

I really hear you. It is so hard. I would not do everything she thinks she needs. I would not make her life super great. That was her responsibility. But it will be over.

Also, do you have kids. You want to set an example, both of being responsible and of ensuring your own retirement. Such a delicate balance when there isn't unlimited funds.

I don't know the exact answer, and I didn't have to do it by myself, I have siblings, but I really didn't think i would survive it. Now, on the other side, as resentful as I am, I am equally grateful that I did what I could do.

How healthy is she? if she is still healthy and this looks longer term, then you can look into spending down her assets and going on Medicaid.

It's rough, OP. Sorry you are dealing with this. [/quote]

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