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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Until you can get professional help, and to save your sanity, you might sit down with her when she is calm and say that you have noticed that she is very focused on things being fair. You can say that this is a sign that she is growing up and learning to analyze things. There are always things that aren’t fair, or don’t seem fair, and part of growing up is to realize and accept it and cope with it. So she can have a minute to tell you about what she feels about anything, but then she needs to use a coping skill. She needs to think of three things that make her feel better, like reading, playing outside, or doing art, and then move on and stop the complaining. If she can’t stop, she can write it down, but you can’t listen to it over and over. Set a limit on the fussing while allowing her to feel the feelings and provide a notebook for an outlet or direct her to an activity. It must be miserable to feel like this. I would also start a tradition of having the family members all say something they are grateful for each day at dinner.[/quote]

11:45 here.  This is a really good approach and something we've done with our kids, especially my oldest (now 20) who has struggled the most with 'letting go and moving on'.

You may find that this is only one flavor of replay/rumination your DD will experience.  She may look for evidence that supports her perception. Using techniques like the PP noted to identify 'balance' is important.  Learning how to interrupt that negative feedback look so it's less likely to reinforce is important.  As the PP noted, doing something that interrupts and moves them in a different direction is important.  It's an important lifeskill for everyone but often kids like ours need a lot more practice at it.

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