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[quote=Anonymous]I’m so over doing everything for Christmas. There are about 25 people I shop for and then wrap/ship/deliver. Then, we host Christmas Eve and Christmas dinners plus a 14 hour Christmas day marathon. My kids don’t have cousins, so it’s 10 adults and 2 kids. 7 people in the house for 4-5 nights. So multiple dinners/lunches as well. 
I spend the days in advance of the big day shopping for food and wine and cleaning wine glasses and dishes and making lists and running around getting things I can’t get until the day before plus prepping lots of meals, getting drinks, loading and unloading  the dishwasher, etc. 
my youngest had a total meltdown about how she hates Christmas because she didn’t  get enough attention. While DH and I were cleaning up and getting dessert ready, every single adult was sitting there on their phone. She felt ignored and bored. 
I don’t want this to ever happen again. I’m willing to do Christmas” with my family but not on the day. I will pick up some sort of food from a restaurant and serve that. I’d like to eliminate the gift exchange as well. I just want our immediate family on Christmas Day. 
Is there a nice way to tell people this? It’s not just about hosting, as I don’t want to go to their houses either. I’m thinking it’s best to just plan a trip and say let’s meet for a meal on x day? Is this to harsh to do to my elderly mother who isn’t in great health and likely only has a few christmases left at most? [/quote]

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