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[quote=Anonymous]I can see both sides of this, as both a single parent, and as the bystander sibling to a very contentious divorce.

Leaving a kid with a friend when there are unexpected childcare needs is a reasonable thing to do.  I have been called upon to watch friends' kids in these situation, and have called upon friends.

During parenting time, unless there is a specific clause that says otherwise, the parent who has the kids gets to choose how they spend their time, and who cares for them.

So, to me the question is, did you adjust parenting time, because of your needs, so that he took responsibility for the kid, in which case, yes he's allowed to solve any childcare issues that come up in any reasonable way, and asking a friend is a reasonable way.

OR, did you offer him time as a favor to him, because he'd asked for more time or because of ROFR, and then instead of using that time to visit, which is why you offered it, put the kid in childcare when you wish he'd simply told you he wasn't available to watch them.  Because if that's the case, and you clearly communicated it to them (e.g. "I'm going to be with my mom on X date.  I have found a great camp, that I know kid will love, but if you'd like more time you can have him") then yes, you have a reason to be upset.

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