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I would take her comments with a HUGE grain of salt, OP, especially if she's very active on social media and uses it to judge others. It's not the behavior of a trustworthy person. Sadly I've had multiple people in my circle suffer from cancer, and neither them nor their spouse ever did that on social media.

People react to serious illness differently. Some will not put themselves forward and rush to help, because they don't know what to do exactly. They just say: "let me know what I can do". Others organize meal trains, bring gifts, call for updates, etc. Neither of these is better or worse than the other. When you're the patient, you need to learn to ask for help.

My friend currently battling lung cancer confided to me that she received the exact same gift from 5 friends and didn't know what to do with them! She appreciates the gestures, but the gifts themselves aren't useful to her. I am very careful with meal trains, because having been sick myself, I know not all food is welcome, and everyone doesn't have the same tastes. If you're on steroids, for instance, it's best to avoid salt otherwise you're going to retain massive amounts of water. Or maybe chemo is making you nauseous, and no food is going to be super appealing anyway. Or maybe you can't get out of bed, and you really need high-fiber foods due to terrible constipation... you see what I mean. Most people aren't terribly thoughtful and just give what's easy for them.

In general, the impulsive people rush to help, and the less impulsive wait to be asked for a specific action. I seem to have become the default driver to and from chemo/appointments, because I have time during the day and am available on short notice.

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