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[quote=Anonymous]This probably sounds absolutely ridiculous given that I'm 45 and my mom is 75, but until a year ago, my mom was completely active and in many ways didn't seem a day over 50 (walked everywhere/ shopped and generally seemed 'young'). It was only 9 years ago that she lost her mom, and only about 11 years since my grandma (who died at 96) was 'old' enough to need significant care. However in the last year, due to osteoperosis and a spinal fracture, followed by extreme pain, followed by extreme anxiety and a lot of medication, that my mom has transformed into a facsimile of my 95 year old grandma. She can barely walk, shakes and often seems 'out of it'. I realize that I should have maybe been prepared for that to happen given mom is in her 70s - but I totally wasn't (and I guess on some level thought 70s in 2023 is not 'so old'). My dad and I are working really hard with a dr/ surgeon/ round the clock nurses, PT/ therapist to try to deal with the issues that have arisen, but I don't see a world where my mom 'comes back' from this fully. Would love to hear from others who have had this happen quickly and maybe sooner than they had anticipated. I keep finding myself randomly throughout the day having out of the blue anxiety attacks and I think just my brain trying to adjust to maybe never having my 'mom' back. [/quote]

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