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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No judgment please, so step aside Gen X.

Elder millennial here who was sold (literally) the American dream. You have no other choice but to go to college and you will take out exorbitant loans. Marry in the Midwest by mid-20s. 3 kids by early 30s. On the back of highly taxed retirement withdrawal, somehow put a down payment on a decent home and now house and student loan poor. No chance for college savings for kids.

Add unhappy in marriage, blaming one another for ending up in *this* place. From coming to age in the era of 9/11, graduating college in an economic recession, attempting hope in Obama era to be shattered with Trump. Trying to raise a young family and being slammed with a pandemic. Everything has been terrible, silver lining coming only in the love I have for my kids. Dark cloud over everything post-Nintendo in the basement with my siblings - 1995.

Will a divorce be the final straw? Are elder millennials f**ked forever or am I the special kind that was hit with it all?[/quote]

I don't think any of your assumptions are false.
We all were raised to go to college, especially those of us who were first or second generation.
I'm slightly older, but definitely took out an interest only loan to buy a house right before the 2006 dip.  And then lost my job.  So took had to repay my 401k loan with my little savings plus a rainy day fund plus a bunch of help from my spouse.  We still can't believe we scrap by, but we do. The pandemic took my marriage to the edge, and we are still there, but we still, for now, are miserably plowing forth with our vows.  The good times and bad times vary from 40-60 each way.  I definitely wonder if this is just a season, and certainly don't want to live out the next 40 years this way.  [/quote]

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