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[quote=Anonymous]Anyone have regrets about reproducing with your spouse, because of all the genetic predispositions?

I think I mistakenly used to think that it was mostly nurture not nature, but I've changed my mind since then.  There are some real challenges that I'm dealing with all of our children, that was never an issue on my side of the family.  It makes me realize that my spouse's genetics are very strong.  And I'm ill equipped to handle them, while for my husband, it is just normal par for the course type stuff.

The extreme volatility, the opposition, the intense anger, the sensory issues, the daily tantrums spanning more than 6 years now. They have also inherited spouse's extreme intelligence and gifted abilities.  I'm by nature a peaceful person, and I never yelled until after my second child was born.

All of my spouse's siblings have attempted suicide, been hospitalized for having a mental breakdown, and have been in some sort of inpatient or rehab program.  They grew up with a very emotionally volatile father, who sometimes just came home from work and started beating on my husband for no reason I guess because he was stressed out, or would beat the kids if they received an A- in their classes. Their mom was emotionally unstable, prone to breakdowns and locking herself in the bathroom threatening to kill herself.

My own family had issues for sure, but nothing like that.  It was more things like ptsd, depression and anxiety from post-war trauma, and my dad was physically/verbally abusive and ran our house military style.  My siblings and I were pretty much angels - dutiful, respectful, straight A students, never raised our voices, never broke the rules.

I have given up hope that the kids are just going through a stage.  And I fear for teen years.  The thing is, they seem pretty happy at home, that is until they decide to be angry.  The triggers are things like limiting screens, taking them to the doctor for checkups, or on most days, just waking up.  They do great at school.  No behavioral issues there.  But at home, they are so hard and they really run me down.  I get blamed for everything.  They scream that they want me to die.  I'm just not built for this.  One day here and there, maybe.  But on a daily basis?  It's doing something to me and it's not good. [/quote]

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