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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was told i should try for a girl for this reason. I couldn’t believe my friend said this. Then she went on to say, well why else do you have kids…i guess some view their kids this way but I never have.[/quote]
I just told DH that I hope not to be a burden on the kids, and that I would put myself in a retirement home when I start to realize I cannot take care of myself.  That's how I feel now, but I don't know if I will feel the same when I hit that stage. I have both a boy and girl, and I have to say, my DD is the one who talks about taking care of me. I think my DS would help out financially, but he is not a caregiver type.

When I look at the older generation:  my parents, ILs, parents of friends, it is mostly the daughters that do the care taking.

My mother has early dementia. She cannot go into a care home because she is an immigrant and can't speak English.  So, my sister, God bless her, who lives very close to her takes care of her. My sister has an adult son, and she quit working to take care of her full time.  My dad is useless taking care of her. I help them out financially because I live on the other side of the country.

My mother said to my sister, "Oh you only have a son, who will take care of you.  Daughters are the best. They think about their parents more."  I have a brother, too, and he's MIA most of the time.

Obviously, not all men are like this. I know a few who checked in on their parents more because the daughter lived further away, and my DH goes on video calls with his mom every week.  But, in general, elder care, and childcare, seems to fall on the daughters.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/when-parents-need-care-daughters-carry-the-burden-study-says/[/quote]

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