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[quote=Anonymous]We’ve had our nanny for a year. She started when DC was 17 months. She had great references and has been a nanny for a long time. At first, she was great, we had very few issues. But as DC has gotten older, it’s clear that she is not great with toddlers. She is completely unable to get DC to do ANYTHING that they don’t want to do, like putting shoes/jacket on, changing diaper, getting in the car or stroller… this leads to DC screaming “No!” at her multiple times a day. She basically stands there and pleads with them. I have explained to her 1,2,3 Magic, which works like a charm for us as parents, and our time-out routine and what triggers it. When I’m working from home, I try not to interfere, but sometimes I’m passing through the kitchen or something and will then model how we approach misbehavior/defiance, so she’s seen how we would like it done. I have also delivered direct feedback about how we all need to be consistent and what I have found to be effective in handling DC’s toddler behavior/how I would like her to handle certain situations.

DC behaves much better with us than they do with her, probably because she is so terrible at setting boundaries. Today she actually asked me (I’m at home) to handle certain things, like getting DC up from their nap and putting their shoes on, because those moments always cause friction when she tries to do it.

I’m getting frustrated and just don’t know where to go from here. I’ll try more feedback, but I’ve already been very direct and specific, so I’m not sure it will even help. [/quote]

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