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[quote=Anonymous]Am I being a jerk about this?  MIL came to stay "temporarily" between living arrangements, but she doesn't have any firm plans to leave and doesn't seem to be making any plans to do so.  She spent a year traveling around Europe and then arrived back a few weeks ago.  She has been visiting friends and has taken a few trips out of town, but all her things are still in storage and she hasn't even mentioned finding a place to live.  When I tried to bring it up with DH, he tells me she is very busy getting all her things in order and doesn't have time to look for a place right now.  When I talk to her, she makes vague comments about maybe buying a house here or there or maybe renting a place or maybe this and that, but there seems to be no plan to leave.  She is driving me absolutely nuts and I want my house back.  I want to be a gracious host, and if I just had a date when she is leaving I think I could manage it, but not knowing how long this will go on is making me really resentful.

She takes over everything, and acts like it's her house (she even redecorates), and I feel like an unwanted guest.  It's very uncomfortable.  DH says I should be grateful because she does all the cooking and a lot of cleaning, and I feel very ungrateful because I would rather have a dirty house than feel like it's not my house at all.  Am I being childish?  How gracious would you be if your MIL came and did all the cooking and cleaning, but did it to the point where you weren't really able to cook anything even if you wanted to, and had to guard your clothing if you didn't want thrown into the washer and dryer, and had decor you didn't even like appearing on your walls and in the rooms?  Like, I just did a major reno and have beautiful new floors which are now covered in ugly throw rugs, and I like minimalism but now have a bunch of knick knacks on every surface and paintings from Home Goods on the walls.  I feel like a baby complaining about someone doing stuff around my house, but I just really hate it.[/quote]

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