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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom has dementia and comes to visit for long periods. I am grateful she can still travel. However it’s hard when she’s here. I want to enjoy my time with her but she suffocates me. [b]She always says she’s so lonely, which isn’t true.[/b] She follows my every step inside the house , and wants to join me whenever I leave the house (I work from home). I need some alone time in my life, and she can’t be alone for just a few moments. I can reason with her - it was difficult before but the guilt tripping and infantile tantrums have only increased since her diagnosis. I m slowly seeing my relationship being poisoned, and I want to be able to enjoy the time I have left with her. How can I manage to do that? Please don’t give advice like hiring someone. She only wants me while I am here and I don’t feel obligated to spend money on an aide, and she is too stingy.[/quote]

It is true, though. She feels alone and anxious -- that's the dementia, and while she may be physically safe, that's her feeling.

She might be physically safe if you left her alone (although you won't know that's no longer OK until something alarming happens), but she would be anxious. If you don't have a friend who'd be willing to sit with her for a few hours, you are going to need to hire someone, because yes, even for a weeklong visit, you need a break.[/quote]

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