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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stopped giving them ideas outside of general "he likes dinosaurs" or "she loves soccer" because it annoyed me to come up with gifts for other people to get credit for.  And yes, half the time they didn't like my suggestions. So I just stopped.  When they press I tell them they don't have to get anything!  But I am not letting my MIL make her Christmas gift giving MY problem.  We are lucky to be able to buy our kids gifts, so we do.  I don't need to outsource the "good" gifts to the grandparents and I'd rather not do the emotional labor of dealing with them.  So I don't.  [/quote]

I'm a PP and I tried to stop giving gift ideas one year. That did not go well. The relentless barrage of texts- literally every few hours "gift ideas? I need lists or I will keep texting!" and aggressive comments during calls got to be too much. So now I feed her token and random ideas. I hate it the waste and effort on my part and the lack of effort on my mom's part. Either look up "great gifts for a X year old" or buy something random. The effort spent nagging me and making my kids feel bad for not having "good" ideas was so much greater than the effort to buy one thing online.

My grandma on my mom's side had to shop for twice as many grandchildren as my mom on a much smaller budget. She would watch TV programs like the Today show or those 7 pm evening shows for gift ideas, and we would all get the same gift, which would be whatever hot thing the TV hosts were recommending. For us younger kids, we also got copies of anything she knew she could make, like American Girl doll clothes and furniture. She would have loved instagram gift round-ups![/quote]

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