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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore her complaints. You can’t change a martyr. My mom is like this. We all go out of our way to celebrate her birthday (though she NEVER acknowledges anyone else’s) and each year she insists on doing all the cooking herself, then complains it “wasn’t much of a birthday” because she had to do everything. And she never likes her presents.

Other visits are like yours - just complaining that visits are too short and infrequent, rather than just enjoying the time. And while we are there she mostly ignores everyone and plays sudoku.[/quote]

You can't undo an introvertive martyr's loneliness for them. Because as you saw, even your presence doesn't help (ironic, right?). My mother is like this, she spends the whole visit talking about how infrequently she sees me. The thing is I could visit every other day and I'd still hear this from her. This is my mother's way of defining her life. Period. My being there has no bearing on her viewpoint. Once I realized that it helped me feel less stressed about it.[/quote]

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