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[quote=Anonymous]She was probably conditioned and rewarded being a good helper when she was growing up, and these isolated acts of kindness give her positive feedback and sense of self, in very low risk situations - all these friends don't expect this level of help and are probably mostly grateful and complimentary. Family dynamic is very different. Maybe she feels guilty of not being the kind of parent to you that she wanted to be. Maybe she was in some way disconnected from own mother or a "disappointment" to her, and now same pattern is playing out with you. You have every right to be pissed, but nothing will come out of confronting her (even in a polite way). If you want to improve a genuine connection - work with what you got, help her succeed at whatever little she can come through with. And work with a therapist. If you need reliable help with childcare - just accept it won't come from your mom and get it elsewhere.[/quote]
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