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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, OP. Focus on the control you have: talking w your sister, deciding if/how much money and time you want to spend, etc. You can even plan in advance, if she has a fall then I can do x, and y, but not z. If course, we don’t know how things will play out, but it helps refocus my mind on what I can control and be factual over overly-emotional. [/quote]

Why do people keep suggesting that she should set aside or plan to spend any of her own money on her mother's care? Her mother has a pension, SS, and a condo she owns. She's actually in pretty good shape and presumably has Medicare coverage as well. You could suggest she use a little of her pension to buy supplemental coverage, in case she needs something that Medicare won't cover. But otherwise, honestly, OP, I just don't see what you are so stressed about. [/quote]

Because it's stressful for OP to feel financially unprepared, and OP may feel better if she has a little nest egg. Elder-care is costly for the adult child doing it-- time off from work, travel, meals when you're there, paying for miscellaneous stuff if the senior isn't able to-- it adds up. [/quote]

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