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[quote=Anonymous]My son has an ASD. I adore him. There have been times, though, when I am tired of dealing with his special needs and the therapy schedules and the crap at school and I just didn't like him very much or enjoy being his parent.

It's okay to feel that way The question is what to do next.

Therapy is a good suggestion.

Daycare/school/respite care/special needs nanny would probably be helpful. It's really easy to get burned out dealing with an SN kid. If you had more help, you'd probably feel less resentful.

Summer camp would probably be helpful. You don't say how old she is, but you should at least start planning for her to have some camp time during the summer, as soon as she is old enough. Some camps for special needs last a week and some last a month or so.  Hunt them down and make plans.

I would suggest is to stop fighting her special needs and find a way to enter into her world and enjoy it. With my kid with ASD, he had an obsession with sharks. One of my favorite memories of his early childhood is going to Sea World Orlando. We spent several hours at the shark exhibit. We went through 28 times. (It has a moving walk-way so you have to go out and then go back through.)  He was a happy, charming child that day. Find what makes this child happy and try to go there with her. If that means buying and sorting clothes hangers, then so be it.  A few happy days makes a huge difference. Sometimes it's really frustrating to be unable to make your child smile. It made me feel like a failure. My kids and I also play video games together, and go the movies, and swim, and garden, and cook.

Find an activity for yourself that helps ground you and gives you some down time.  For me, it was running. Having an hour or so to be alone and run helps me stay clear headed during the rest of the day. I run while the kids are sleeping and before my husband goes to work.

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