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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been divorced for 2 1/2 years now.  I have full custody of my two teenage (14, 16) girls.   Dad is a deadbeat and only sees them a few times a year.  Dating has been a challenge.  I finally met someone that I’m head over heels in love with and my kids are being kind of rude.  They barely acknowledge him. We’ve been dating for 9 months now and I see a future with him.  Given how serious we are and the fact that I get no break, he comes over a few times a week and helps me with my house, eats dinner, etc.   [b]Come to find out, my kids feel uncomfortable (not in a creepy way) with him around so much.[/b]  I was somewhat shocked to find this out.  He is such a good person, he’s very normal, he’s a family man, has kids of his own, a great job, lots of friends and hobbies.   This has definitely complicated our relationship.  He volunteered to step back from coming over, but I think he was honestly a little hurt.  I have my kids in therapy bc there is some obvious unresolved feelings around my divorce that hasn’t been processed.  Any thoughts on what might be going on here?  Did I introduce him too soon to my kids and they weren’t ready for it?  I feel like I’ve done my work and waited til I felt strongly about someone before introducing him to my kids. I know they are teenagers and by default somewhat selfish, but I haven’t been this happy with someone in a long time.  [/quote]
It’s good and healthy that your teenaged daughters (!) feel uncomfortable with an unrelated adult man in their home. “Creepy way” or not, it’s just not appropriate. You should honor their instincts and 100% stop hosting at your home while they are there. [/quote]

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Me and my sister felt this way when we were kids, couldn't put our finger on why we didn't feel comfortable around him. She married him behind our back, had him move it. Turns out he was in fact a child molester and my mom did nothing about it. We were right to feel uncomfortable around him. You should be listening to your daughters and putting them first here. They might be on to something so do NOT discredit them. This situation will impact your relationship with them for the rest of their lives. Know that.[/quote]

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