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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up with huge, traditional holiday celebrations in the Midwest. I had to move far away to find work and married an immigrant who grew up celebrating quite differently. I tried to make holidays happen the way I remembered them but it always felt disappointing, especially because so much of my family is dead.

We’ve redone our holidays with a non-traditional Thanksgiving menu, Christmas Day at a friend’s house, and an emphasis on a later holiday that I didn’t even grow up celebrating. It’s not the storybook/movie Christmas I grew up with but it’s better for me to feel a little bit off than for my kids to try to bend themselves to fit into a pretty narrow version of celebrating. My kids would never feel like those Christmases fully fit them anyway because they aren’t white European kids in a 1940s greeting card illustration, and acknowledging that helped me embrace new traditions (much to my mother’s chagrin).

My kids’ future spouses will probably appreciate some of the menu alterations we’ve embraced and may be relieved that they don’t have to visit a million different houses over the holidays.[/quote]

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