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[quote=Anonymous]Shut it down. Some people use gifts as a way to release their crazy. I have a sibling who will give junk and thank you is not enough, she will drive you insane with questions about how often it's used, need photos of child with object. I made it clear the gift is your presence, no more gifts.If you chose to give one, we will not be answering a host of questions and it is a boundary violation. It was easier than listening to this BS and training my kids to pretend to be excited and prodding them to write thank you notes. If thank you was enough we would have just donated the stuff and thanked her. Just make a no gifts rule. Make it clear that you will not be engaging in these discussions. If you genuinely enjoy her company-let her know that and it's gift enough. If you decide not to set a gift boundary, set a boundary with the complaints. Change subject. Leave discussion. Distract. Whatever, but don't reinforce.[/quote]
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