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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You feel guilt because you've been conditioned by your mother and society to attend to the needs of your mother at the expense of yourself - it would be the 'nice' thing to do even though you don't have the reserve to do it.  You need to be aware of this conditioning and how it makes you feel.

No matter what decision you make, you're going to have some sort of negative emotion.  If you help her, you'll feel resentful and feel even more weight/stress because of your workload.  If you don't help, you'll feel guilt and, perhaps, the judgement of others.  Which scenario is less burdensome for you?[/quote]

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Solidarity, OP. A few years ago I decided to stop being my mom's free therapist and validator-in-chief. She really resented me at first but she can't really argue with it -- she's been doing it to me since I was a child and it sucks. It's not my job and never should have been assigned to me.

It gets easier with time. Your mom will be fine. She'll pay someone to come help her move and maybe the extra expense will help her remember next time the cost of making impulsive life decisions.[/quote]

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