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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you feel pain, OP.

However it's hard for me to relate to the degree of agonizing that goes on in certain posters' minds regarding cheating/affairs/APs. Some people don't believe in monogamy, and try to live lives that don't hurt others too much while still living something that is closer to their beliefs. Some people don't mind their partners' affairs too much, given the rest of the package deal, so to speak. There are so many things in life that can hurt a marriage - I would put physical abuse, financial duress and physical and mental health disorders on that list.

But my parent having a long-term affair? No, I wouldn't be bothered for a second. That's my parents' business, not mine. I will not judge or lose sleep over it.

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Being lied to for years on end is certainly a huge trauma. [/quote]

For some people. Others process it in a healthier way. And a lot of people suspect, and choose to let it go. I agree with the poster saying that possibly the marriage was as good as it was because of the long-term off-side, not despite it.

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Thanks cheater. The consequences of cheating are in fact that you deeply hurt your loved ones. No amount of Esther Perel talk can change that. And not all cheating is the same. Discreet affairs just for sex is one thing. But sounds like OP’s parent had an entire double life with lies to all parties. That is indeed a lot to handle. [/quote]

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