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[quote=Anonymous]Are they not pitching in because you do it all? If they view themselves as guests then they would be prone to not initiate help since you "host." When/if you directly ask them for help do they refuse? Ease back on how much you give when you visit them and lower your bar when they visit you. Speak up. For Thanksgiving just say "We're excited for a relaxing Thanksgiving together. I like how you guys just get takeout on the days around it. That's what we'll do too." Then send them to the store to get sandwiches or order a pizza. If they want fancier takeout just say, "I promised the kids we'd have (mac and cheese) but feel free to do something else for yourself if you'd prefer. We have a bunch of menus from local places in that drawer."[/quote]
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